Tracy Becker http://tracybecker.com Transformational Coach Fri, 19 Aug 2016 13:47:27 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.7.4 Loving Awareness Assessment http://tracybecker.com/loving-awareness-assessment/ http://tracybecker.com/loving-awareness-assessment/#respond Fri, 15 Jul 2016 13:15:32 +0000 http://tracybecker.com/?p=2270 Boy, when I take a break, I take a break!  Wow. I’ve been honoring my burn-out and going within and it has been one of the most fabulous times of my life. In January 2015 I made a commitment that I was going to focus on a life of Effortless Ease, huh?  What does that mean? It means that I check in constantly with my body and mind to see if I’m efforting in any way or if I’m having resistance. If I was, or am, because this is a constant process, I simply adjusts my thoughts. Sounds simple enough, right? Yet the journey was filled with unknown surprises and marvelous miracles.

I am grateful! Really, really grateful!

Therefore, today, I offer you the assessment (see below) that I and my clients, who are among the most fearless warriors for inner-peace that I know, use to keep us focused, to correct our errors in thinking and to ensure our evolution.

 If you decide you could use some help and support in any of these areas, let me know. I have space for one, possibly two, more fearless warriors for inner-peace in my schedule.

 Blessed Be

In joy, Tracy

Loving Awareness Assessment

© Tracy L. Becker, 2016

 Read each statement below and score yourself, honestly, on a scale of 0-10. Zero = I never do this; 10 = I always do this. Any score that is above 5, celebrate yourself and keep it up! Yea, you! Any score that is 5 or less create a plan to change or improve upon it.

1. __________ I practice at least 15 – 30 minutes daily one of the following: mindfulness meditation, mantra meditation, listen to solfeggio tones, do A Course in Miracles Workbook Lessons, or any other daily spiritual practice.

2. __________I practice daily creating, refining and keeping healthy boundaries that help me stay in a state of self-responsibility.

3. __________I practice daily self-care, self-soothing and self-loving behaviors. Examples may be eating healthy balanced meals; having proper sleep hygiene; accessing my own style of creativity; taking mental and physical breaks throughout the day to keep stress and anxiety at bay; eliminate or at least minimize, for the time being, addictive behaviors; do things that bring true happiness, healing and joy; doing some type of physical exercise; researching and adding multi-disciplinary forms of healing that resonate with my own personal Truth.

4. ___________When I can choose, I consciously choose the people that I surround myself with, talk to, interact with that lift me up and help keep me positive.

5.  ___________I have a group or activity where I learn positive things and/or share and learn from other likeminded people on a regular basis.

6. ___________I am increasingly able to manage my thoughts and begin to shift the negative ones at a more rapid pace than before.

7. ___________I am able to identify my limiting emotional state of being and track it back to a limiting and untrue belief system on a daily basis.

8. ___________Daily, I am using prayer, my Higher-Self, God, Creator, Buddha, Source to call on for guidance, assistance and redirection of thoughts and behaviors that no longer serve me.

 9. ___________Daily, I practice forgiveness toward myself and others.

10. ___________Daily, I experience a Divine connection that feels like peace or joy.

#lovingawareness #assessyourself #effortlessease #selfdevelopment #livinglifetoitsfullest #honoringyourself #takeabreak #peacetoall #lovetoall #spiritualdevelopment #expandyourmind

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Codependency http://tracybecker.com/codependency/ http://tracybecker.com/codependency/#respond Mon, 08 Feb 2016 12:39:01 +0000 http://tracybecker.com/?p=2252 Codependency is a tendency to behave in overly passive or excessively caretaking ways that negatively impact one’s relationships and quality of life. It also often involves putting one’s needs at a lower priority than others while being excessively preoccupied with the needs of others. Codependency can occur in any type of relationship, including in families, at work, in friendships, and also in romantic, peers or community relationships. Codependency may also be characterized by denial, low self-esteem, excessive compliance, and/or control patterns.

This is the gist of Wikipedia’s definition of Codependency. I bring it up to you this month because of the many times it is referred to in my office and the dynamic I have found in working with thousands of people in regard to codependency. What I see more often than not is a lack of awareness of the codependency in general and a sincere desire to blame someone other than ourselves. We therefore lack the knowledge that change must happen in ourselves in order to illicit change in the other. I have also discovered a continuum of codependency in all of us, ranging anywhere from mild, to moderate, to severe.

When we are in a relationship with others we often begin the relationship in codependent ways. Doing things we normally wouldn’t do, saying things we may not mean, agreeing to things that are not in our best interest, overlooking behaviors that aren’t acceptable, etc. All to ‘make’ the other person love us; activating our general need to be loved, accepted and approved of and our general belief that we are not lovable or attractive and acceptable just as we are. When we start a relationship in this way, it can be hard and often full of disappointment and resentments. This eventually causes problems, usually presenting first as resentment and eventually deterioration of the relationship.

We often times make unconscious or unspoken agreements with one another about these behaviors. An example is: If you don’t point out and complain about my daily consumption of alcohol, I won’t point out and complain about your excessive spending and running up the credit card bill. Or even milder forms like: If you don’t keep your agreement with me about doing some of the household chores, I don’t have to keep my agreement with you about improving my health.

Healing codependency can happen through simply asking the right questions, being honest in answering and making necessary changes in thought and behavior to adjust to a healthier way of relating and being. Here are just a few questions to ask yourself to help you understand your role as a codependent person.

  • Who do I feel resentment toward? What were the circumstances when you first noticed it?
  • Who do I help by being codependent and having undesirable behaviors such as addictions, poor health, poor skills, lack of responsibility, etc.?
  • What unconscious or unspoken agreements do I have with others that do not help either of us become the best we can be?
  • What feelings, pains, or fears am I avoiding?
  • What negative thoughts do I consistently have about a loved one?
  • What expectations do I have about another’s behavior? Do they know I have these expectations, or do I just punish them when they do not fulfill them?

I invite you to take some time this week to answer some of these questions in depth. Allow these to lead to other inquiring questions. Put your fear aside for a short time. Be gentle with yourself knowing that more often than not you do function from a place of needing validation that you are good enough and loveable; and an underlying belief and fear that maybe you’re not. It’s all good, and it is all especially good if you use it to heal yourself, and in doing so, you will heal others.

In joy, Tracy

#codependency #relationship #gettingwell #personalresponsibility #whattodo

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The Reception: The Art of Allowing & Receiving http://tracybecker.com/httpssoundcloud-comtracybeckerthe-reception-may-2015/ http://tracybecker.com/httpssoundcloud-comtracybeckerthe-reception-may-2015/#respond Sun, 03 May 2015 13:58:01 +0000 http://tracybecker.com/?p=2136 How well are you receiving the gifts and miracles of the Universe?

That’s what I thought!

Time to get in the receptive mode, releasing all your tension and resistance, and joining me in full relaxation, realization and wonder.

Take a 15 minute break, get comfy, put your earbuds in and let my guided meditation get you into receptive awareness.

As Margaret Mead said, “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful committed citizens can change the world; indeed it’s the only thing that ever has.” I know you’re in this with me.

#meditation #open #receive #allow #relax #breathe

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Curiosity vs. Frustration http://tracybecker.com/curiosity-vs-frustration/ http://tracybecker.com/curiosity-vs-frustration/#respond Wed, 01 Apr 2015 17:02:58 +0000 http://tracybecker.com/?p=2127 Sometimes how we focus and talk about the things we most desire is exactly what keeps them from happening. In this video you will learn ONE easy technique that will help you move into an easier and more effortless path of getting what you want out of life.

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They, Them & Those – Comparing Self to Others http://tracybecker.com/they-them-those/ http://tracybecker.com/they-them-those/#respond Sat, 07 Mar 2015 16:25:28 +0000 http://tracybecker.com/?p=2117 Do you ever find yourself comparing your life, bank account, family, friends, job, looks, body shape/size and marriages to others? If so, you’ll definitely want to watch this, because you are hurting yourself more than you know by doing this.

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When’s the last time you made a BOLD move? http://tracybecker.com/boldness/ http://tracybecker.com/boldness/#respond Fri, 24 Oct 2014 18:39:59 +0000 http://tracybecker.com/?p=2050 Boldness, having courage, not letting fear get in your way, going beyond your perceived limits – we love to watch other do this, don’t we? It’s easy to find people that are being bold in the world, but what about you? Are you living your boldest life, your most courageous life? Are you living your big life? Well, let’s talk about it a bit.

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Breathe in, Breath out and again, please… http://tracybecker.com/breathing/ http://tracybecker.com/breathing/#respond Fri, 24 Oct 2014 18:37:21 +0000 http://tracybecker.com/?p=2048 Our breath is one of our most valued tools, it’s with us all the time, we have control over it all the time and we can choose to use it to our benefit, if we want. In several ancient languages the word breath is synonymous with the word spirit – thus defining our pathway to God. Hmmm, if this is so, then why are we not utilizing this free and easy gift to open those doors and expand into grace? Listen up for more on the importance of the breath.

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Have you given birth lately, not to a baby, but a grand idea? http://tracybecker.com/birthing/ http://tracybecker.com/birthing/#respond Fri, 24 Oct 2014 18:34:53 +0000 http://tracybecker.com/?p=2046 There is a process and a natural evolution to birthing a baby as well as giving birth to a new idea or concept. Yet when we are birthing a baby we have little choice in whether to hurry the process up; however in birthing ideas and concepts we can tend to rush things. We may not take proper care in nurturing the process. We may even ignore it all together, or even get frustrated with the time it does take. Let me help break down for you the natural steps to bringing your big idea forward.

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What the heck is a Brain Bath? http://tracybecker.com/brain-bath/ http://tracybecker.com/brain-bath/#respond Fri, 24 Oct 2014 18:23:58 +0000 http://tracybecker.com/?p=2044 You shower your body, clean your home, your car, wash your clothes, right? But when’s the last time you actually bathed your brain, cleansed it from negativity, detoxified it and really let it slow down to a nice harmonious hum? Isn’t it about time? Check out this video to see how and why taking regular Brain Baths are so very important.

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What are you bringing to the table? http://tracybecker.com/bringing/ http://tracybecker.com/bringing/#respond Fri, 24 Oct 2014 18:22:03 +0000 http://tracybecker.com/?p=2042 Bring, huh? What are you Bringing to the table? Who are you showing up as? Are happy or satisfied with what you show up with everyday, how you contribute, how others and the world benefits from you? Bring your listening ears and lets discover more about this together.

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Behavior http://tracybecker.com/behavior/ http://tracybecker.com/behavior/#respond Fri, 24 Oct 2014 18:18:34 +0000 http://tracybecker.com/?p=2040 Is your behavior helping you get where you want to go? Listen to this video and gain a great technique to get you on the right path.

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How are you Being? http://tracybecker.com/being/ http://tracybecker.com/being/#respond Fri, 24 Oct 2014 18:11:08 +0000 http://tracybecker.com/?p=2038 Being is the quality or state of having existence. What a great concept to contemplate, right? It is so juicy, your own personal existence and how you relate to it…yummy! Listen up for more deliciousness on Being.

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Boredom http://tracybecker.com/boredom/ http://tracybecker.com/boredom/#respond Fri, 24 Oct 2014 18:09:10 +0000 http://tracybecker.com/?p=2036 I’m bored! Have you ever said this, heard it being said, or thought this? If so, listen up to what I have to say about boredom. This is coming from someone who use to say this a lot. Seriously!

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Biology http://tracybecker.com/biology/ http://tracybecker.com/biology/#respond Fri, 24 Oct 2014 18:04:45 +0000 http://tracybecker.com/?p=2034 Biology, can you change it? Do you ultimately have control over it, or are we all doomed to our genetics? How would your thinking and behavior change if you knew you had complete control over your biology?

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Beliefs http://tracybecker.com/beliefs/ http://tracybecker.com/beliefs/#respond Thu, 17 Jul 2014 13:13:42 +0000 http://tracybecker.com/?p=1989 We all have them, but how do we know if they are working to our benefit or not? Listen up and I will give you some ways that will help you determine whether or not your beliefs are true, useful and helping you get more of what you want.

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Awareness http://tracybecker.com/awareness/ http://tracybecker.com/awareness/#respond Sat, 12 Jul 2014 14:40:09 +0000 http://tracybecker.com/?p=1971 I’m talk’n about your lack of self-awareness, yep, you

With all the multiple stimuli in our busy, crazy, techie world who has time for focusing within? You do! Especially if you are committed to inner peace, having a calm mind and being able to control your thoughts, emotions and your life in a way that feels good. Listen up and learn how to find harmony within and without.

Mmm, Mmm Good Stuff!

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Grrrr….Anger!!! http://tracybecker.com/grrr-anger/ http://tracybecker.com/grrr-anger/#respond Fri, 04 Jul 2014 20:55:25 +0000 http://tracybecker.com/?p=1961 Anger gets a bad rap and I’m going to tell you why and what you can do about yours. In this video you will learn about the various degrees of anger, their root causes and what to do about your anger so that you can have more acceptance, forgiveness and joy…AND be in control of your happy destiny!

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6 Ways to Connect to Source http://tracybecker.com/6-ways-to-connect-to-source/ http://tracybecker.com/6-ways-to-connect-to-source/#respond Mon, 30 Jun 2014 18:32:08 +0000 http://tracybecker.com/?p=1945 Why is Source Energy so important? I break down what it is, why it’s important, and how you can access Source Energy so you can find answers to questions, find peace, tranquility, acceptance, & more.

Get the Source Energy eBook

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Did I Meet Your Approval? http://tracybecker.com/did-i-meet-your-approval/ http://tracybecker.com/did-i-meet-your-approval/#respond Mon, 30 Jun 2014 18:26:56 +0000 http://tracybecker.com/?p=1941 How can you take a subject matter that you disapprove of and find peace with it?
Check out this video where I tell you exactly how to do that. How to dig through all the #$%* and find the gem in any situation.

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Acceptance: The Gateway Emotion http://tracybecker.com/acceptance-the-gateway-emotion/ http://tracybecker.com/acceptance-the-gateway-emotion/#respond Mon, 30 Jun 2014 18:21:30 +0000 http://tracybecker.com/?p=1938 If there was ever an emotional state of being that could be considered as a gateway drug, it is acceptance. Once you get to this state of being all other higher level emotions are just steps away – like true forgiveness, inner peace, unconditional love, joy, bliss, emotional freedom, complete understanding and knowing. They are closer than you think.

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